Category Archives: emotions related to illness

Unrecognised disabilities have consequences throughout life…

How many people are living with some undiagnosed, unrecognised, neurological problem or disability which caused them difficulty at home and at school?  How many people were told they were stupid, or felt they were stupid, when they had a problem … Continue reading

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The Trouble with Illness – the book!

The Trouble with Illness: How Illness and Disability Affect Relationships  is being published by Jessica Kingsley on 21st Jun 2017. I spent the last summer writing it, discovering files which were dated 2007 in the process; at last it’s coming … Continue reading

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Tearing the hair off a doll

I’ve written about this in my book, Phantasy in Everyday Life. When Jane was two (or possibly three) years old, she found her doll with the hair torn off.  Jane was very upset and asked her mother who had done … Continue reading

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The capacity to care for others or ourselves is vulnerable.

Caring, like loving, can be very satisfying and fulfilling, but it can also be very painful.  If we care, we allow our feelings to depend on the behaviour and feelings of others, not just ourselves.  Caring can affect others’ feelings … Continue reading

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A parent’s illness affects their children

– when everyone would rather it didn’t. Children need parents, when it would be much easier if they didn’t. Children may have to think about their parents in ways nobody wants. Parents may have to think about their children in … Continue reading

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The NHS – an Ideal Carer?

We want the NHS to be an Ideal Carer (see previous blog). The Francis Report into the failure of care at the Mid-Staffordshire NHS Foundation Trust stated that ‘patient care is at the very centre of the NHS, and no … Continue reading

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An Ideal Carer..

The idea of what a carer (or partner or parent or child) of an ill person should be is powerful. It embodies an ideal which people want to live up to. It sets standards against which others may be judged. … Continue reading

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