Category Archives: counselling

The Trouble with Illness – the book!

The Trouble with Illness: How Illness and Disability Affect Relationships  is being published by Jessica Kingsley on 21st Jun 2017. I spent the last summer writing it, discovering files which were dated 2007 in the process; at last it’s coming … Continue reading

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Medically unexplained symptoms

  There are many medically unexplained symptoms or conditions which cause problems between doctors and patients. A client said to me: I wish they would just tell me that there is no medical explanation for my daughter’s problem, then I … Continue reading

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Illness can push people into the paranoid-schizoid position – advice sought..

I think my husband may have this could you offer any advice to me please, especially how to react to it and how to get him some help.  This came as a comment but I think it deserves a new … Continue reading

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I wish it was all over

 I wish it was all over  I wish everything was back as it used to be.  I want them to live for ever  I hate this situation  I wish they were dead  I am a monster to feel like this … Continue reading

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Notes on Relationships in MS: for discussion

What might be helpful to think about if you or your partner have MS ? MS makes it harder to understand each other. Putting yourself in the other person’s shoes does not work in the same way Other people react … Continue reading

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Mothers and back pain

There seems to be a link between backache and mothers.   It may be mostly for daughters – I’m not sure whether there is the same link for men.   Mothers often have backache themselves, and it would not be surprising if their daughters … Continue reading

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Not knowing when to mention a minor symptom…

Big decisions are bad enough, but the small ones cause conflicts too. Do you tell your nearest and dearest every time you get a stiffness in the leg, a minor pain, a problem with your hand?  Or do you keep … Continue reading

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