Category Archives: counselling

Unrecognised disabilities have consequences throughout life…

How many people are living with some undiagnosed, unrecognised, neurological problem or disability which caused them difficulty at home and at school?  How many people were told they were stupid, or felt they were stupid, when they had a problem … Continue reading

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The Trouble with Illness – the book!

The Trouble with Illness: How Illness and Disability Affect Relationships  is being published by Jessica Kingsley on 21st Jun 2017. I spent the last summer writing it, discovering files which were dated 2007 in the process; at last it’s coming … Continue reading

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Medically unexplained symptoms

  There are many medically unexplained symptoms or conditions which cause problems between doctors and patients. A client said to me: I wish they would just tell me that there is no medical explanation for my daughter’s problem, then I … Continue reading

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Illness can push people into the paranoid-schizoid position – advice sought..

I think my husband may have this could you offer any advice to me please, especially how to react to it and how to get him some help.  This came as a comment but I think it deserves a new … Continue reading

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I wish it was all over

 I wish it was all over  I wish everything was back as it used to be.  I want them to live for ever  I hate this situation  I wish they were dead  I am a monster to feel like this … Continue reading

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Notes on Relationships in MS: for discussion

What might be helpful to think about if you or your partner have MS ? MS makes it harder to understand each other. Putting yourself in the other person’s shoes does not work in the same way Other people react … Continue reading

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Mothers and back pain

There seems to be a link between backache and mothers.   It may be mostly for daughters – I’m not sure whether there is the same link for men.   Mothers often have backache themselves, and it would not be surprising if their daughters … Continue reading

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