Category Archives: health

The Trouble with Illness – the book!

The Trouble with Illness: How Illness and Disability Affect Relationships  is being published by Jessica Kingsley on 21st Jun 2017. I spent the last summer writing it, discovering files which were dated 2007 in the process; at last it’s coming … Continue reading

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The capacity to care for others or ourselves is vulnerable.

Caring, like loving, can be very satisfying and fulfilling, but it can also be very painful.  If we care, we allow our feelings to depend on the behaviour and feelings of others, not just ourselves.  Caring can affect others’ feelings … Continue reading

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A parent’s illness affects their children

– when everyone would rather it didn’t. Children need parents, when it would be much easier if they didn’t. Children may have to think about their parents in ways nobody wants. Parents may have to think about their children in … Continue reading

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The NHS – an Ideal Carer?

We want the NHS to be an Ideal Carer (see previous blog). The Francis Report into the failure of care at the Mid-Staffordshire NHS Foundation Trust stated that ‘patient care is at the very centre of the NHS, and no … Continue reading

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Medically unexplained symptoms

  There are many medically unexplained symptoms or conditions which cause problems between doctors and patients. A client said to me: I wish they would just tell me that there is no medical explanation for my daughter’s problem, then I … Continue reading

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I’ve got the symptoms: do I want the diagnosis?

There are many conditions where a diagnosis does not just solve problems; it can also add a whole new set.  Multiple Sclerosis is the one I’m thinking about here. Neurological symptoms can be vague, confusing; they come and go; it is … Continue reading

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Illness can push people into the paranoid-schizoid position – advice sought..

I think my husband may have this could you offer any advice to me please, especially how to react to it and how to get him some help.  This came as a comment but I think it deserves a new … Continue reading

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