Category Archives: emotions related to illness

An Ideal Carer..

The idea of what a carer (or partner or parent or child) of an ill person should be is powerful. It embodies an ideal which people want to live up to. It sets standards against which others may be judged. … Continue reading

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Medically unexplained symptoms

  There are many medically unexplained symptoms or conditions which cause problems between doctors and patients. A client said to me: I wish they would just tell me that there is no medical explanation for my daughter’s problem, then I … Continue reading

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I’ve got the symptoms: do I want the diagnosis?

There are many conditions where a diagnosis does not just solve problems; it can also add a whole new set.  Multiple Sclerosis is the one I’m thinking about here. Neurological symptoms can be vague, confusing; they come and go; it is … Continue reading

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Illness can push people into the paranoid-schizoid position – advice sought..

I think my husband may have this could you offer any advice to me please, especially how to react to it and how to get him some help.  This came as a comment but I think it deserves a new … Continue reading

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I wish it was all over

 I wish it was all over  I wish everything was back as it used to be.  I want them to live for ever  I hate this situation  I wish they were dead  I am a monster to feel like this … Continue reading

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Notes on Relationships in MS: for discussion

What might be helpful to think about if you or your partner have MS ? MS makes it harder to understand each other. Putting yourself in the other person’s shoes does not work in the same way Other people react … Continue reading

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Oscar Wilde: suffering from influenza

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‘A mother who takes care of herself’

We want a mother who can take care of herself. Children can worry about their mother being ill.  Like in an aeroplane emergency, they need her to put on her own oxygen mask in order to be able to put … Continue reading

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Women can laugh at men

Women can laugh at men’s erection problems Men can laugh when men cheat on their wives. Neither are at all funny to the people concerned. They get people where it really hurts. Both can completely undermine confidence. They can turn … Continue reading

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Mothers and back pain

There seems to be a link between backache and mothers.   It may be mostly for daughters – I’m not sure whether there is the same link for men.   Mothers often have backache themselves, and it would not be surprising if their daughters … Continue reading

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