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Children worry when a parent is ill. Children will worry about parents with long covid.
They worry about Will they get better? Will they die? It’s my fault they are ill …. this should be a question, but a child may simply believe it without questioning. Is it the other parent’s fault? or someone … Continue reading →
Sadness Time
Sadness is important. It accompanies regrets, recognition of real losses, grief. But sadness is painful; painful to experience and painful to watch in someone you love. People often try to stop feelings of sadness by avoiding ever thinking about distressing … Continue reading →
The Trouble with Illness – the book!
The Trouble with Illness: How Illness and Disability Affect Relationships is being published by Jessica Kingsley on 21st Jun 2017. I spent the last summer writing it, discovering files which were dated 2007 in the process; at last it’s coming … Continue reading →
The capacity to care for others or ourselves is vulnerable.
Caring, like loving, can be very satisfying and fulfilling, but it can also be very painful. If we care, we allow our feelings to depend on the behaviour and feelings of others, not just ourselves. Caring can affect others’ feelings … Continue reading →
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A parent’s illness affects their children
– when everyone would rather it didn’t. Children need parents, when it would be much easier if they didn’t. Children may have to think about their parents in ways nobody wants. Parents may have to think about their children in … Continue reading →
The NHS – an Ideal Carer?
We want the NHS to be an Ideal Carer (see previous blog). The Francis Report into the failure of care at the Mid-Staffordshire NHS Foundation Trust stated that ‘patient care is at the very centre of the NHS, and no … Continue reading →
An Ideal Carer..
The idea of what a carer (or partner or parent or child) of an ill person should be is powerful. It embodies an ideal which people want to live up to. It sets standards against which others may be judged. … Continue reading →
Illness can push people into the paranoid-schizoid position – advice sought..
I think my husband may have this could you offer any advice to me please, especially how to react to it and how to get him some help. This came as a comment but I think it deserves a new … Continue reading →
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I wish it was all over
I wish it was all over I wish everything was back as it used to be. I want them to live for ever I hate this situation I wish they were dead I am a monster to feel like this … Continue reading →
It seems to take two years for the mind to catch up with a new reality
It seems to take two years for the mind to catch up with changes to the body. (It can also take two years to catch up with significant changes to relationships.) This is not a hard and fast rule – … Continue reading →
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