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Category Archives: grieving processes
Living with a child who is born with problems
It is hard having a child who will never have the life experiences you have had; who will never be the child you dreamt of; who will not allow you to be the mother or father you always saw yourself … Continue reading →
Sadness Time
Sadness is important. It accompanies regrets, recognition of real losses, grief. But sadness is painful; painful to experience and painful to watch in someone you love. People often try to stop feelings of sadness by avoiding ever thinking about distressing … Continue reading →
The Trouble with Illness – the book!
The Trouble with Illness: How Illness and Disability Affect Relationships is being published by Jessica Kingsley on 21st Jun 2017. I spent the last summer writing it, discovering files which were dated 2007 in the process; at last it’s coming … Continue reading →
I wish it was all over
I wish it was all over I wish everything was back as it used to be. I want them to live for ever I hate this situation I wish they were dead I am a monster to feel like this … Continue reading →
It seems to take two years for the mind to catch up with a new reality
It seems to take two years for the mind to catch up with changes to the body. (It can also take two years to catch up with significant changes to relationships.) This is not a hard and fast rule – … Continue reading →
Notes on Relationships in MS: for discussion
What might be helpful to think about if you or your partner have MS ? MS makes it harder to understand each other. Putting yourself in the other person’s shoes does not work in the same way Other people react … Continue reading →
Mothers and back pain
There seems to be a link between backache and mothers. It may be mostly for daughters – I’m not sure whether there is the same link for men. Mothers often have backache themselves, and it would not be surprising if their daughters … Continue reading →
People expect to live as long as their parents did..
Like all generalisations this is not always true, but where it is true, it can affect relationships – particularly when someone is ill. Sometimes people make plans which are obviously based on the assumption that they will not be around … Continue reading →
papers
Julia Segal. 2011 In praise of sadness. in: The Independent Practitioner, BACP’s specialist divisional journal for counsellors and psychotherapists working independently. Spring 2011 pp6-9 Julia Segal, Sue Baker, Elisabeth Koerber and Elizabeth Arbiser 2010 Working with brain damaged clients. in: Therapy … Continue reading →
Don’t think about it…
Not thinking about it seems like a good idea… Illness can bring fears about the future. People often say ‘don’t think about it’. Why upset yourself? Better just to ignore it all and get on with it. This may work … Continue reading →
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