Category Archives: grieving processes

The Trouble with Illness – the book!

The Trouble with Illness: How Illness and Disability Affect Relationships  is being published by Jessica Kingsley on 21st Jun 2017. I spent the last summer writing it, discovering files which were dated 2007 in the process; at last it’s coming … Continue reading

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I wish it was all over

 I wish it was all over  I wish everything was back as it used to be.  I want them to live for ever  I hate this situation  I wish they were dead  I am a monster to feel like this … Continue reading

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It seems to take two years for the mind to catch up with a new reality

It seems to take two years for the mind to catch up with changes to the body.  (It can also take two years to catch up with significant changes to relationships.) This is not a hard and fast rule – … Continue reading

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Notes on Relationships in MS: for discussion

What might be helpful to think about if you or your partner have MS ? MS makes it harder to understand each other. Putting yourself in the other person’s shoes does not work in the same way Other people react … Continue reading

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Mothers and back pain

There seems to be a link between backache and mothers.   It may be mostly for daughters – I’m not sure whether there is the same link for men.   Mothers often have backache themselves, and it would not be surprising if their daughters … Continue reading

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People expect to live as long as their parents did..

Like all generalisations this is not always true, but where it is true, it can affect relationships –  particularly when someone is ill. Sometimes people make plans which are obviously based on the assumption that they will not be around … Continue reading

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papers

Julia Segal. 2011 In praise of sadness.  in: The Independent Practitioner, BACP’s specialist divisional journal for counsellors and psychotherapists working independently.  Spring 2011 pp6-9 Julia Segal, Sue Baker, Elisabeth Koerber and Elizabeth Arbiser 2010  Working with brain damaged clients. in:  Therapy … Continue reading

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