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Mourning is work..

Hilary Mantel,  The Princess Myth: ‘Mourning is work. It is not simply being sad. It is naming your pain. It is witnessing the sorrow of others, drawing out the shape of loss.  It is natural and necessary and there is no … Continue reading

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On first using a stick or a cane in public (when you have MS).

Using a stick (a cane, if you are American) outside for the first time is one of the harder transitions for someone with multiple sclerosis.  There is a long period between needing a stick and actually buying one or accepting … Continue reading

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Mild Cognitive Impairments (MCI or NCD)

I am writing a chapter about counselling people with mild cognitive impairments:  Working with people with mild neurocognitive disorders (mild NCD) or mild cognitive impairments (MCI)  for a book: Theory & Practice of psychoanalytic psychotherapy in dementia.  Eds Sandra Evans, Jane … Continue reading

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A parent’s illness affects their children

– when everyone would rather it didn’t. Children need parents, when it would be much easier if they didn’t. Children may have to think about their parents in ways nobody wants. Parents may have to think about their children in … Continue reading

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The NHS – an Ideal Carer?

We want the NHS to be an Ideal Carer (see previous blog). The Francis Report into the failure of care at the Mid-Staffordshire NHS Foundation Trust stated that ‘patient care is at the very centre of the NHS, and no … Continue reading

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Brian Dillon reviews The Empathy Exams: Essays by Leslie Jamison (Granta, £12.99).  I haven’t read it myself yet but he says she deals with just the issues which concern this website:  talking about illness in a truthful way.  

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It is difficult to know what is making you feel bad.

How you feel depends on natural body chemicals causing emotional states, including hormones (premenstual tension)  and daily fluctuations (sleep/wake cycle) plus food,  coffee, tea.. plus medication – for the illness; for symptoms; for mental state. plus how people around you … Continue reading

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