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Going it alone…

It can be very hard to lean on others, especially when you know they have their own problems.  Some people don’t want to be lent on, but others do. In Giri/Haji, there is a poignant moment when a dangerously drug … Continue reading

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worrying about worrying

Worrying about worrying … The coronavirus is a real cause for worry.  That is clear.  But many people find themselves worrying in a way which doesn’t seem right.  They are too worried, or worried about something which isn’t a real … Continue reading

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Covid-19 anxiety

16 March 2020There seems to be a real disconnect between people’s anxiety about health and their capacity to think or act. Perfectly intelligent people can be paralysed by panic: we know this in theory, but watching it in friends or … Continue reading

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Mourning is work..

Hilary Mantel,  The Princess Myth: ‘Mourning is work. It is not simply being sad. It is naming your pain. It is witnessing the sorrow of others, drawing out the shape of loss.  It is natural and necessary and there is no … Continue reading

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On first using a stick or a cane in public (when you have MS).

Using a stick (a cane, if you are American) outside for the first time is one of the harder transitions for someone with multiple sclerosis.  There is a long period between needing a stick and actually buying one or accepting … Continue reading

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Mild Cognitive Impairments (MCI or NCD)

I am writing a chapter about counselling people with mild cognitive impairments:  Working with people with mild neurocognitive disorders (mild NCD) or mild cognitive impairments (MCI)  for a book: Theory & Practice of psychoanalytic psychotherapy in dementia.  Eds Sandra Evans, Jane … Continue reading

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A parent’s illness affects their children

– when everyone would rather it didn’t. Children need parents, when it would be much easier if they didn’t. Children may have to think about their parents in ways nobody wants. Parents may have to think about their children in … Continue reading

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