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Children worry when a parent is ill. Children will worry about parents with long covid.
They worry about Will they get better? Will they die? It’s my fault they are ill …. this should be a question, but a child may simply believe it without questioning. Is it the other parent’s fault? or someone … Continue reading →
Sadness Time
Sadness is important. It accompanies regrets, recognition of real losses, grief. But sadness is painful; painful to experience and painful to watch in someone you love. People often try to stop feelings of sadness by avoiding ever thinking about distressing … Continue reading →
The Trouble with Illness – the book!
The Trouble with Illness: How Illness and Disability Affect Relationships is being published by Jessica Kingsley on 21st Jun 2017. I spent the last summer writing it, discovering files which were dated 2007 in the process; at last it’s coming … Continue reading →
Tearing the hair off a doll
I’ve written about this in my book, Phantasy in Everyday Life. When Jane was two (or possibly three) years old, she found her doll with the hair torn off. Jane was very upset and asked her mother who had done … Continue reading →
A parent’s illness affects their children
– when everyone would rather it didn’t. Children need parents, when it would be much easier if they didn’t. Children may have to think about their parents in ways nobody wants. Parents may have to think about their children in … Continue reading →
Medically unexplained symptoms
There are many medically unexplained symptoms or conditions which cause problems between doctors and patients. A client said to me: I wish they would just tell me that there is no medical explanation for my daughter’s problem, then I … Continue reading →
Blame it on the illness…
An illness can become a scapegoat for all kinds of other troubles. ………… ‘I’ve done something bad’ – it must have been because of my illness – even if it was actually not to do with … Continue reading →
Notes on Relationships in MS: for discussion
What might be helpful to think about if you or your partner have MS ? MS makes it harder to understand each other. Putting yourself in the other person’s shoes does not work in the same way Other people react … Continue reading →
‘A mother who takes care of herself’
We want a mother who can take care of herself. Children can worry about their mother being ill. Like in an aeroplane emergency, they need her to put on her own oxygen mask in order to be able to put … Continue reading →
Mothers and back pain
There seems to be a link between backache and mothers. It may be mostly for daughters – I’m not sure whether there is the same link for men. Mothers often have backache themselves, and it would not be surprising if their daughters … Continue reading →
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