Category Archives: children with ill parents

The Trouble with Illness – the book!

The Trouble with Illness: How Illness and Disability Affect Relationships  is being published by Jessica Kingsley on 21st Jun 2017. I spent the last summer writing it, discovering files which were dated 2007 in the process; at last it’s coming … Continue reading

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Tearing the hair off a doll

I’ve written about this in my book, Phantasy in Everyday Life. When Jane was two (or possibly three) years old, she found her doll with the hair torn off.  Jane was very upset and asked her mother who had done … Continue reading

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A parent’s illness affects their children

– when everyone would rather it didn’t. Children need parents, when it would be much easier if they didn’t. Children may have to think about their parents in ways nobody wants. Parents may have to think about their children in … Continue reading

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Medically unexplained symptoms

  There are many medically unexplained symptoms or conditions which cause problems between doctors and patients. A client said to me: I wish they would just tell me that there is no medical explanation for my daughter’s problem, then I … Continue reading

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Blame it on the illness…

An illness can become a scapegoat for all kinds of other troubles.            ………… ‘I’ve done something bad’ – it must have been because of my illness – even if it was actually not to do with … Continue reading

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Notes on Relationships in MS: for discussion

What might be helpful to think about if you or your partner have MS ? MS makes it harder to understand each other. Putting yourself in the other person’s shoes does not work in the same way Other people react … Continue reading

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‘A mother who takes care of herself’

We want a mother who can take care of herself. Children can worry about their mother being ill.  Like in an aeroplane emergency, they need her to put on her own oxygen mask in order to be able to put … Continue reading

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