Category Archives: illness

Families interpret behaviour

Illness often causes changes in behaviour.  Families and friends interpret these changes. Sometimes the ill person would rather nobody noticed, so the family or friends may pretend not to notice. But families interpret according to: their own anxieties their own … Continue reading

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I’ve got the symptoms: do I want the diagnosis?

There are many conditions where a diagnosis does not just solve problems; it can also add a whole new set.  Multiple Sclerosis is the one I’m thinking about here. Neurological symptoms can be vague, confusing; they come and go; it is … Continue reading

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Blame it on the illness…

An illness can become a scapegoat for all kinds of other troubles.            ………… ‘I’ve done something bad’ – it must have been because of my illness – even if it was actually not to do with … Continue reading

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Illness can push people into the paranoid-schizoid position – advice sought..

I think my husband may have this could you offer any advice to me please, especially how to react to it and how to get him some help.  This came as a comment but I think it deserves a new … Continue reading

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My mistress’ eyes are nothing like the sun

My mistress’ eyes are nothing like the sun   (Sonnet 130) by William   Shakespeare My mistress’ eyes are nothing like the sun; Coral is far more red than her lips’ red; If snow be white, why then her breasts … Continue reading

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I wish it was all over

 I wish it was all over  I wish everything was back as it used to be.  I want them to live for ever  I hate this situation  I wish they were dead  I am a monster to feel like this … Continue reading

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It seems to take two years for the mind to catch up with a new reality

It seems to take two years for the mind to catch up with changes to the body.  (It can also take two years to catch up with significant changes to relationships.) This is not a hard and fast rule – … Continue reading

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Notes on Relationships in MS: for discussion

What might be helpful to think about if you or your partner have MS ? MS makes it harder to understand each other. Putting yourself in the other person’s shoes does not work in the same way Other people react … Continue reading

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Oscar Wilde: suffering from influenza

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‘A mother who takes care of herself’

We want a mother who can take care of herself. Children can worry about their mother being ill.  Like in an aeroplane emergency, they need her to put on her own oxygen mask in order to be able to put … Continue reading

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