Category Archives: health

I’ve got the symptoms: do I want the diagnosis?

There are many conditions where a diagnosis does not just solve problems; it can also add a whole new set.  Multiple Sclerosis is the one I’m thinking about here. Neurological symptoms can be vague, confusing; they come and go; it is … Continue reading

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Illness can push people into the paranoid-schizoid position – advice sought..

I think my husband may have this could you offer any advice to me please, especially how to react to it and how to get him some help.  This came as a comment but I think it deserves a new … Continue reading

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My mistress’ eyes are nothing like the sun

My mistress’ eyes are nothing like the sun   (Sonnet 130) by William   Shakespeare My mistress’ eyes are nothing like the sun; Coral is far more red than her lips’ red; If snow be white, why then her breasts … Continue reading

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It seems to take two years for the mind to catch up with a new reality

It seems to take two years for the mind to catch up with changes to the body.  (It can also take two years to catch up with significant changes to relationships.) This is not a hard and fast rule – … Continue reading

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Oscar Wilde: suffering from influenza

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‘A mother who takes care of herself’

We want a mother who can take care of herself. Children can worry about their mother being ill.  Like in an aeroplane emergency, they need her to put on her own oxygen mask in order to be able to put … Continue reading

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Women can laugh at men

Women can laugh at men’s erection problems Men can laugh when men cheat on their wives. Neither are at all funny to the people concerned. They get people where it really hurts. Both can completely undermine confidence. They can turn … Continue reading

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Not knowing when to mention a minor symptom…

Big decisions are bad enough, but the small ones cause conflicts too. Do you tell your nearest and dearest every time you get a stiffness in the leg, a minor pain, a problem with your hand?  Or do you keep … Continue reading

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People expect to live as long as their parents did..

Like all generalisations this is not always true, but where it is true, it can affect relationships –  particularly when someone is ill. Sometimes people make plans which are obviously based on the assumption that they will not be around … Continue reading

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Julia Segal. 2011 In praise of sadness.  in: The Independent Practitioner, BACP’s specialist divisional journal for counsellors and psychotherapists working independently.  Spring 2011 pp6-9 Julia Segal, Sue Baker, Elisabeth Koerber and Elizabeth Arbiser 2010  Working with brain damaged clients. in:  Therapy … Continue reading

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