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Category Archives: grieving processes
What an illness means to you will depend on your past as well as your present. You may know about the links, or you may not. This can feel most unfair – or it can be a great reassurance. If you … Continue reading →
When people get frustrated with their own body not working properly they may take it out on those around them.
Some important questions. How does this work? Are they blaming others for their body not working? Are they confusing their own body with the body of their children or their partner? Are they just hitting out blindly, so preoccupied with … Continue reading →
Health professionals like to do a good job. With some illnesses, it is very hard to know you have done a good job. An illness may make the patient get worse whatever anyone does. Without a ‘cure’, nobody may be … Continue reading →
Too much guilt can be overwhelming. It feels like an attack. It becomes ‘persecutory guilt’. Persecutory guilt is too frightening to be acknowledged. It makes people behave badly rather than apologise. It can be so frightening that even thinking about it is … Continue reading →
This does not feel fair, or right. There should be treatments for all conditions. There are places to look for a different view. another doctor the internet another patient the woman next door the church, the rabbi, the immam a … Continue reading →
If you get ill, you should be able to go to the doctor, be told what is wrong, be told how long the problem will last, perhaps be given medicine, or treatment and then get better. Unfortunately it doesn’t always … Continue reading →
Watching someone else going through a grieving process is hard. They may just want to howl and cry – and this is painful to watch. They may hide their grief from you – and this can feel like a barrier … Continue reading →
It seems to take two years to get used to a significant loss or change. You may want it to be much quicker. This is not a hard and fast rule – it can take longer or be quicker, in … Continue reading →
Speech problems can make you seem slow and stupid – to yourself and to other people. Speech problems can make you feel people think you are stupid. Speech problems slow you down – and other people have to learn to wait … Continue reading →
When you need to make changes but can’t bear to know it When you need to recognise what is happening , but the implications seem life-threatening When you can’t bear to see what is actually happening When you are afraid … Continue reading →