Category Archives: counselling

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Julia Segal. 2011 In praise of sadness.  in: The Independent Practitioner, BACP’s specialist divisional journal for counsellors and psychotherapists working independently.  Spring 2011 pp6-9 Julia Segal, Sue Baker, Elisabeth Koerber and Elizabeth Arbiser 2010  Working with brain damaged clients. in:  Therapy … Continue reading

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Don’t think about it…

Not thinking about it seems like a good idea… Illness can bring fears about the future.  People often say ‘don’t think about it’.  Why upset yourself?  Better just to ignore it all and get on with it. This may work … Continue reading

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Illness stresses health professionals as well as patients

Health professionals like to do a good job.  With some illnesses, it is very hard to know you have done a good job.  An illness may make the patient get worse whatever anyone does.  Without a ‘cure’, nobody may be … Continue reading

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Illness creates conflicts

Illness creates conflicts inside people’s heads. Sometimes they divide these up, so one person takes one side of the conflict and another just sees (or talks about) the other. Arguments, misunderstandings, fights, can arise out of these conflicts.  One person says … Continue reading

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There may not be a treatment

This does not feel fair, or right.  There should be treatments for all conditions. There are places to look for a different view. another doctor the internet another patient the woman next door the church, the rabbi, the immam a … Continue reading

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Illness doesn’t always behave as it should

If you get ill, you should be able to go to the doctor, be told what is wrong,  be told how long the problem will last, perhaps be given medicine, or treatment and then get better. Unfortunately it doesn’t always … Continue reading

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Watching someone else going through a grieving process is hard.

Watching someone else going through a grieving process is hard. They may just want to howl and cry – and this is painful to watch. They may hide their grief from you – and this can feel like a barrier … Continue reading

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It seems to take two years for the mind to catch up with the body.

It seems to take two years to get used to a significant loss or change. You may want it to be much quicker. This is not a hard and fast rule – it can take longer or be quicker, in … Continue reading

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The worst time is

When you need to make changes but can’t bear to know it When you need to recognise what is happening , but the implications seem life-threatening When you can’t bear to see what is actually happening When you are afraid … Continue reading

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The most frustrating time is…

when you have all of the problems but none of the solutions When you are pretending nothing is wrong, but it is. When you can’t walk properly but you haven’t got a stick, or crutches, or any way into or … Continue reading

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